I love this!

Don’t worry about whether or not your loved one (or the person for whom you are caring) is getting everything right. Handle the “realities” that are necessary for care.

Patience is absolutely important to an Alzheimer’s or dementia person. Talking to them as if they’re a baby will cause them to digress— so don’t do it! Yelling or raising your voice in frustration or repeating the same phrase in the same way is not going to help.

Look that precious person in the eye, find a new way to say the same thought if they’re not grasping what you’re saying, and be patient, even when you’re in a hurry—remember that this human being has a brain that does contain memories (even if they cannot produce them,) does have feelings (even if they cannot express them or express the wrong ones at the wrong times,) and does desire to be treated like the adult that they are.

I know someone who took over the care of their mother and kept saying to her that she was her precious baby— her three-year-old. That dear woman went from being able to communicate with others to being completely nonverbal in about a month. Never, ever disrespect an adult in that manner!